The 48-Hour Rule
Do you know about this? It was a new one on me. Apparently, you should make a guy wait 48 hours to hear from you, in certain situations.
And my current situation qualifies as everyone but me agrees, seeing as how he sent an email all but kissing my ass goodbye after not returning a phone call from me the night before.
I'm saying the 48 hours starts at11:21 Sunday night when I got that asshole-blowing-me-off-email from Flyboy. You know he sent a normal email yesterday afternoon, right? He called last night. I was actually on the phone when he called so that made it easier not to answer. He left a message, asking him to call him back, which I didn't do per instructions.
I spent much of yesterday and the evening being coached by Laura. She was my lifeline yesterday because I must admit I felt literally sick after the first email I got from him. It was a big ole slap in the face and out of nowhere. Anyway, under the coach's instruction, I am not to respond in any way to him for 48 hours.
That seems so rude! I protested, saying I had never done that before, kept a guy hanging for two freaking days. Even as I was saying those words, I thought about the definition of insanity: doing the same thing over and over yet expecting different results. Hmmmm.
So I am trying this new thing, stringing this guy along, I guess is what I'm doing. I'm uncomfortable in the role and honestly, feel like a manipulative bitch and mean. And I'm also all too aware that this could totally blow up in my face.
Which leads me to another point...I'm considering emailing him late this afternoon, just before I leave work. I'm sure he's flying so who knows when he'll check his email. On the other hand, maybe I should wait until I get some kind of communication again from him before I respond. What do you think?
(As far as The 48-Hour Rule, I realize I'm fudging a bit but really - 5:00 this afternoon is in the relative ballpark of 11:20, right?)
While it is true that I feel like I'm being mean and plain rude by not responding, it is also true that part of the reason why I'm ready to respond is because I'm afraid he'll lose interest by my doing this hard-to-get shit. I know, it's pathetic. I hated even typing those words but it's the truth.
I do realize that if he loses interest that easily and that quickly, then he's not worth having. But still.
Feedback, folks! What do you think of all this?
And my current situation qualifies as everyone but me agrees, seeing as how he sent an email all but kissing my ass goodbye after not returning a phone call from me the night before.
I'm saying the 48 hours starts at11:21 Sunday night when I got that asshole-blowing-me-off-email from Flyboy. You know he sent a normal email yesterday afternoon, right? He called last night. I was actually on the phone when he called so that made it easier not to answer. He left a message, asking him to call him back, which I didn't do per instructions.
I spent much of yesterday and the evening being coached by Laura. She was my lifeline yesterday because I must admit I felt literally sick after the first email I got from him. It was a big ole slap in the face and out of nowhere. Anyway, under the coach's instruction, I am not to respond in any way to him for 48 hours.
That seems so rude! I protested, saying I had never done that before, kept a guy hanging for two freaking days. Even as I was saying those words, I thought about the definition of insanity: doing the same thing over and over yet expecting different results. Hmmmm.
So I am trying this new thing, stringing this guy along, I guess is what I'm doing. I'm uncomfortable in the role and honestly, feel like a manipulative bitch and mean. And I'm also all too aware that this could totally blow up in my face.
Which leads me to another point...I'm considering emailing him late this afternoon, just before I leave work. I'm sure he's flying so who knows when he'll check his email. On the other hand, maybe I should wait until I get some kind of communication again from him before I respond. What do you think?
(As far as The 48-Hour Rule, I realize I'm fudging a bit but really - 5:00 this afternoon is in the relative ballpark of 11:20, right?)
While it is true that I feel like I'm being mean and plain rude by not responding, it is also true that part of the reason why I'm ready to respond is because I'm afraid he'll lose interest by my doing this hard-to-get shit. I know, it's pathetic. I hated even typing those words but it's the truth.
I do realize that if he loses interest that easily and that quickly, then he's not worth having. But still.
Feedback, folks! What do you think of all this?
posted by KDA at 9:40 AM
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